If you identify as a woman, trans-woman, non-binary, menstruate, or used to, you have read various articles on boundaries, how to set them, and why you need to set them, etc. You know it is essential to understand your limits, so let’s not get into that part.
Instead, on this auspicious day during Women’s History Month, I permit you to say NO - no explanation, nothing - just the word NO. Our ancestors fought for this!!! Go ahead, try saying it out loud - N. O. NO.
I permit you to say NO - no explanation, nothing - just the word NO.
Are you being asked to take notes in a meeting for the 100th time? Say NO.
You are invited to a playdate when you just want to binge-watch reality TV on the couch. Say NO.
You are asked out on a date by someone you are not interested in or are interested in, for that matter. But you don’t feel like going out on a date today? Do yourself a favor; say NO.
You are asked if you want another drink, and only try to say yes to be polite. JUST DON’T. Fuck that. SAY NO! Nah, I am gonna pass on. Thank you, though; that is hella polite.
Are you asked to take more responsibility at work without a promotion or a raise? You know what to do - SAY NO.
Is someone inviting themselves to your place, and you don’t have the mental bandwidth for it? It is okay to say NO. You can do it. I believe in you!
Your best friend is trauma dumping, and you are emotionally exhausted yourself. Say it! SAY NO! It doesn’t make you a bad friend. You just don’t have the space today, and that is okay.
Is someone sharing feedback or unsolicited advice you never asked for? Nope, nope, nope. Thanks, but no thanks, Derek. Not today.
You are reading your book on the subway, and someone is trying to make small talk. Go ahead, try it. Say NO.
Does someone have opinions on how you look, dress, walk, eat, age (!!), breathe, or much or how little makeup you wear/don’t wear? Sing it with me. NOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Is your brain yelling at you unnecessarily? You know what I am about to say - NO! And also ask it to shut the f*ck up.
That’s all. I have nothing else to add here. Tell me what you say no to this week or month or year. Or you know what; practice it here!! SAY NO TO SHARING THAT WITH ME!! It is okay.
Have a lovely weekend, and don’t forget to hug your puppers for me. kthxbieee