Many traditional instructions are meant as correctives for a particular audience, but get misunderstood as goals in themselves.
Everyone radiates a unique reality field, the personal flow from perception to action. Some are strong, some weak, some fixed, some fluid, some benign, some malign, some in conversation, some not. Reality field interaction is the source from which practical life arises.
Empathy without spaciousness can pull you in to a harmful view. Sympathy removes this risk, at the cost of removing the intimacy of knowing the other's inner view. Empathy with spaciousness allows knowing the other's view intimately without being lost in it.
Methods for deconstructing your patterns are developable skills, constructions. Eventually, but not before being constructed and engaged with, these too can be deconstructed. A dance of construction and deconstruction.
'Energy maps' are commonly available resonances in the field of energy. Two resonant forms may apparently contradict if taken as THE map. Over time, new forms of resonance are discovered. And, sometimes, people have 'rare resonances' not easily available to others.
Wittgenstein’s Use (see also: Wittgenstein’s Ruler): Whenever people use something, that thing is also using people. People use tractors. Tractors use people…to reproduce, to repair. Any pattern is at least a quasi-living thing at the level of a virus.
Using a secondary definition of enjoy: to have and use with satisfaction. You enjoy a new hammer by hammering. You enjoy your possessions by use. You enjoy your friends by caring. You enjoy a new self-narrative by living it.
Choosing right spiritual commitment is no more soluble than choosing the right spouse. In thousands of years of marriage, there is wisdom, but still, marriage works out far better for some. There will always be an element of luck in spiritual commitments working well.
Being honest is more workable, not a requirement for workability. You can accomplish things together with someone who is dishonest; no need for them to change. They might even be enjoyable to hang out with.
Trees do their thing. You do your thing.