What men are sold is perfection. What they are buying, however, is insulation. They are escaping isolation by buying insulation. How ironic.
They want her, but not really.
They want to fantasize about her, which is far different.
I hope it’s not too rude of me to say so, but if she showed up in their bedroom they would be shit scared.
These men do not see her without her makeup on. They don’t hug her when she cries. Lord forbid they have to hold space for her when she gets angry. They only see the pretty side, the cute smirk, the innuendo that never turns into the touch of saliva against skin.
They are buying a kind of insulation that guarantees they will only ever have to show up for her in one way – sending her money. She would not exist in their world without the money machine that pays for her hair stylist, handler, and cute little livestreamer cubicle the size of a hall closet.
I’m sad it’s gotten this bad. I’m sad for the men across the world. The video above is about Chinese men, but Japan also has a whole class called the hikikomori. The Japan Times reports they numbered 1.5 million in 2022.
On this side of the pond, American men are throwing billions with a capital-B at cam girls.
OnlyFans, the subscription platform that caters to sexually explicit content creators, reported $5.55 billion in total spending by users for the fiscal year ended Nov. 30, 2022, up 16% from the year prior, with creators taking home nearly $4.5 billion of that.
– Variety
I cannot help but notice how many men are willing to pay for a digital experience. Far fewer are willing to drop cash on a sex worker who knocks on their physical door to knock boots. Isn’t that fascinating? Wouldn’t you think men would want more bang for their buck?
(Yes, I get that it’s illegal, but so are drugs and that hasn’t stopped them.)
I want to tell this young man –
No, you deserve more. If she met you on the street she would not know your name. Real-life relationships are much more intimate than anything you’ve ever experienced, but don’t worry – even though you’ve never experienced this, you can learn to love.
You are a human animal. We all deserve hugs, snuggles and kisses. We all deserve a lover who gazes into our eyes and deeply sees us. We all deserve someone to sit with us when we are courageous, and when we are afraid. You deserve it too.
As long as you have this fantasy occupying your erotic imagination, you are too overstimulated to find your real lover. Your most precious gifts of devotion and love are going into the bank account of the corporation that employs her.
She will not miss you. She might not even notice you’re gone unless you’re very, very rich.
As soon as you can, stop this. Your life is waiting on the other side.
This is personal.
I matched with a handsome Australian man this very weekend on a dating app. He was traveling through my fair city. He made it clear he was into me, as men do when they are.
From his profile, I guessed he would be confident, but he was “too intimidated” by me to have a brief chat on the phone to check the vibe. Please note, this is not my description of him, this is his. He described himself as too intimidated.
When did so many men become terrified of real connection with the women they desire?
What happened?
If you think I will explain it to you all today, I have to disappoint you now. I’m first asking you to tell me what you know about what brought us to this place and how we get out. I’ve been studying this for years, but still have so many questions.
How did men, especially the younger generations, get so unable to be in relationship with the women they desire? Blah, blah, blah cell phones and distraction… I know all that. This is deeper.
Some of these men are A-okay in the workplace or they wouldn’t have $75k to give to a livestreamer in the first place. They must have some amount of verbal and social ability.
What the hell is going on? Even better… if you know any men who made it through strong addictions to hyper-real artificial women aka cam girls, livestreamers, porn, etc, or if you are a man that made it through please get in touch. I gotta dig down to the bottom of this.
Hugs from Oaxaca,
Cris and Team Dragon
In case you missed it…
I was interviewed on the podcast, Ten Thousand Heroes. Find it on Spotify, Apple, or anywhere you get your podcasts. It’s episode #110.
This just dropped a few days ago on the Integral Stage about artificial sentient intelligence and building augmented intelligences which inspire and support humanity.