A little empathy never hurt anyone: connect with others on a deeper level
Empathy is nothing that can compromise your health or a deadly virus, but it can help make you a better human being
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Empathy has become a rare commodity. Or else, in the inverse proportion of digital inclusion, where more and more people have gained a voice and less and less respect is given to the opinion of others.
You don't have to agree, but also, you don't have to want to make your opinion prevail. As well as, thinking that the contradictory will always be wrong. What would the world be like if everyone liked sushi and the color of pumpkin? A little empathy doesn't hurt, on the contrary, it shows that you are evolving.
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How to make empathy an ally of your evolution
We start from the assumption that the idea of the human being is always to move forward. In other words, it's evolving. Correct me if I'm talking nonsense because unless you're a jackfruit tree, there's no point in being rooted in one place. Even the jackfruit evolves.
Author Dano Moreno, published on June 1, 2017, on the Civcom website, that “empathy is a skill we can build, just like a muscle”. That is, practice generates excellence, or in this case, it manages to transform you into a more understanding person. Look:
Hear and understand;
Put yourself in the place of others;
Question, ask questions;
Offer help;
Show compassion.
I know, my past condemns me! Also, you must be thinking now why I want to talk about empathy, compassion, evolution, and everything that psychology people like. You thought that, correct?
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I explain
This morning I read a text by the writer and doctor in organizational behavior, Natasha MH, “A word about women with children”. And she comments on exactly that, people imposing their opinions and not respecting hers.
For things like that, to be happy, she needs to get married and have children, otherwise, her life will not be full and will be meaningless. However, they never questioned her or put themselves in her place to find out why she decided the opposite. She explains in the text, just click and read.
“If even a jackfruit tree evolves, it won’t be difficult for you to do the same”
That's one of the evils of digital inclusion, or everyone thinks they need to have that old opinion formed about everything. Yes! You must have your opinion, but not make it prevail above all, much less use the networks to insult others.
Listen and understand
Before leaving with four stones in your hand wanting to push your certainty and your truth and stone that person on the other side, do it differently. It means we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. If your ear is as big as mine, it's because we need to listen more than we talk.
So take the time to listen and try to understand the other person's point of view. Acknowledge your feelings and validate your experiences. I risk more, sometimes even though we don't agree, we manage to learn great lessons from the contradictory.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes
Just calm your little heart, I'm no better and no worse than you. In other words, before you start snapping your fingers to type and calling me superb, let me tell you something: I was once that rabid keyboardist, and social media guy who thought I was the champion of justice.
“What I got out of it: a lot of enmities and a lawsuit!”
But wipe the smile off your face because I didn't have to pay $88,000.00 and I won in the first and second instances. Now come back here and let's continue.
You know, when you start to put yourself in someone else's shoes and imagine what it would be like to be in that situation, for example, you judge less. As well, you begin to understand why that person performed or took such an attitude. The most amazing thing: you don't have to agree, but just respect.
Question, ask questions
Ask open, respectful questions to gain more information and understanding about the other person's experience. A good way, too, of not embarrassing yourself by pushing your truths.
You and I were not part of the Holy Office, much less did we go after it to punish heretics. That time is stored there in history but never forgotten, never to be repeated again.
Offer help
There are times when the other person needs help, but we know that it is necessary to have a detachment that maybe we are not prepared or evolved yet. However, when we stop believing that the planet earth revolves around our navel, maybe it's time to make ourselves available to others.
“But here the maxim applies: not being in the way is already a great help!”
If there's one thing I learn every day, in different situations, it's that we can offer assistance, but never want to embrace the problem of others. This has nothing to do with empathy, this has to do with self-love. Yours, anyway.
Offer to help where you can and be supportive. Do not insist.
Empathy is showing compassion
If you really want to help others, show compassion. Come with me again, compassion in this case has absolutely nothing to do with feeling sorry. As much as these two words may be synonymous.
In other words, show the other person that you care and are there for them. A simple gesture or a kind word can go a long way. And if you don't agree, keep being kind, as this does not show weakness, but emotional development and greatness of spirit.
You won
For your joy, after 995 words so far, I hope this text has made some sense to you. From now on, before you rock social media like a lion, remember, there is no human being like the other on this planet, they think alike, but they are never the same.
I lost a lot of things because of the way I was, because of the arrogance of thinking that my opinion should prevail above everything else. It took going to the bottom of the well to learn firsthand the meaning of many things.
Empathy was one of them. And finally, I was lucky and didn't lose, but maybe you aren't and need to take more than 80 thousand out of your pocket in case you continue to distill hate around the world. Now it's time to prove it was worth it and let me know what you think of it all. The comments section is all yours.
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