You really have to go after what you want
If you want to do something, go for it -you've got nothing to lose.
Growing up, I’ve always had an idea of what I wanted, even though sometimes I wasn't so sure about it—my career, my love life, and my finances. Another thing I realized about myself is that I always go after what I want, even if I have to do some crazy stuff. I will definitely go after what I want, without listening to anyone.
One of the craziest things I’ve done in my career journey is sending cold emails to people I want to work with. It may sound strange, but I honestly don't mind...as long as I get what I want. Towards the end of my first year in university, I was looking for a place for my internship, and I really wanted to work in a bank.. like the whole cooperate girl thing (as I mentioned, I set standards and I don’t settle for less). Luckily for me, I found out that UBA has a media department that consists of RED TV and RED RADIO.. And I told myself, I was going to work there. I reached out to a random babe on Instagram that works there, and she gave me the email address of the head of Red Radio. I sent him a mail and this man didn’t respond till I sent him about 12 follow-up emails. I know it sounds crazy, but I was really determined to get what I wanted.
This man called me after about a month and a half of sending him emails, and he was like, "He wants us to meet, so he sent me his office address." I went to his office that Monday morning, and we had a good conversation. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the job because of the whole COVID stuff, but he referred me to his friend and said something that I will never forget. He said, "I admire your resilience, and the world needs more people like you. Please keep it up." Honestly, that felt like a million bucks.
Sometimes, or most of the time, we all know what we want. We want that dream job, that career, that relationship, that person, that soft life, but we are afraid to go after it because we don’t know what the journey will look like. We are so scared of so many things. What if it doesn’t work out? What if I get rejected? We even battle with self-doubt, but the truth remains that if you don’t try, you’ll end up regretting it in the future. I’m sure you don’t want to sit down in the next five years and start wishing you'd gone for that dream job or asked your crush out. You don’t want to live a life filled with regrets.
And what happens if it doesn’t work out? At least you know you tried. I listened to a podcast last month, and the babe said something I held on to. She said, "Please do not be afraid of failure, but be terrified of regrets because giving up is the beginning of regrets." The fear of failure can often hold us back from pursuing our dreams, but it's important to remember that failure is a natural part of the journey toward success.
Failure isn’t the opposite of success, it's just a part of the process. Every successful person I know has experienced failure at some point in their journey. In fact, failure is often a necessary step toward achieving success. It teaches us valuable lessons, helps us to grow and learn, and ultimately makes us stronger.
Ultimately, I think it's important to embrace the possibility of failure and understand that it's a natural part of the journey toward success. Instead of fearing failure, view it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and try again. Remember that success is not the absence of failure, but the ability to rise above it. So don’t be afraid to go after what you want, even if it doesn't work out the first time.
I’m rooting for you.
With love,
Gloria
Thank You Gloria
I forgot to comment on this newsletter after reading but the lessons I learn from it has already made a huge impact in my life. Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate 🙏