In this special, 10th episode I interviewed husband and wife team Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, PhD. Josh is a product executive and coach, a former VP of Product, founder and ex-Googler. He is also the "default" parent to two teenagers having chosen to step back as Carla leaned more into the workforce as a best-selling parenting book author.
Carla is a clinical social worker and mother. She’s the author of four non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent, and the forthcoming How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids.
In this episode we discuss:
Transition stages for kids and puberty during the pandemic
The argument that led to their decision to start a family
IVF and fertility
How you can't learn to be a parent from a pamphlet
Understanding privilege and balance as a parent
Their decision for Josh to be the default parent
Whether you're in Teen or Tween mode and what to do
Parenting Frameworks
What it means to be a good parent
Rapid fire!
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Where to find Josh Herzig-Marx
- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/herzigma
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuaherzigmarx/
Where to find Carla Naumburg
- Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/
- Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/
Where to find Adam Fishman
- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/
- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf
- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf
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In this episode, we cover:
[2:10] Personal background
[4:36] How did you meet?
[6:54] Family/kids
[8:12] Kid’s transition stages/puberty
[11:46] Decision to start a family
[15:30] IVF
[19:04] Earliest memories of becoming a parent
[24:04] Work/life balance
[26:05] Privilege
[31:50] Being the default parent
[38:28] Teen vs. Tween mode
[39:18] Parenting frameworks
[48:20] What is a good parent/unconditional love
[52:52] Rapid fire round
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Show references:
You're Not a Sh*tty Parent: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/youre-not-a-shtty-parent/
How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/how-to-stop-losing-your-sht-with-your-kids/
Ready, Set, Breathe: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ready-set-breathe/
All of Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/
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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/
Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/
Balance, being the default parent to teenagers and being married to a parenting PhD | Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg (parents of 2, Tech Exec and Best-selling Parenting Author)