I’m realizing Scott is the first male guest I’ve had on the podcast! I loved this conversation, and while we talk about parenting, this is more of a philosophical discussion with the main focus on what I like to call The Big Shift. I frequently reference, and even read from Scott’s article, ‘What is Unconditionality’? which I highly recommend! It’s an incredible description of this paradigm shift that contrasts clear examples of what it feels like to be conditional vs. unconditional, to operate out of fear vs. love, controlling vs. allowing.
For more of Scott’s work and to learn about his coaching, you can visit his website. He’s compiled the Daily Groove articles that I fell in love with into a book, and these truly are incredibly though-provoking and hopeful nuggets to encourage you to allow what is and experience more peace and partnership in your life. He wrote these when his (now adult) daughters were younger and his examples of application reflect this, but I think you’ll see that the Grooves can be applied to any relationship to allow more ease into your life.
For ease of accessing StoicMom articles and episodes mentioned during our conversation: Is it okay?, How will you know?, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, Perceiving a Higher Path (and the other episodes with Jessie Mannisto here and here.)
There was one more question that I asked Scott during this main interview that I decided to edit out because of the length and because there was just so much to digest already! However, it was painful for me to cut it because it was some great content and I suspect you may still have some curiosity about that alternative life path that Scott and his family ended up taking. I asked him how that turned out for his family, and I appreciated his honest, open-hearted response. Rather than this chunk of content ending up on the cutting room floor, I decided to go ahead and add it to the Q&A which I hope to publish by Monday. The rest of the Q&A is about how this shift looks directly related to the circumstance of parenting a trans-identified child.
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I do feel like we just scratched the surface in this already long episode, and I’d love to have Scott back again to dive a little deeper into some of these aspects of this compassionate, needs-based paradigm we keep referencing. I know we would both love feedback as to whether you felt this conversation was accessible? What questions came up for you? What resonated most? Were you bothered by anything?
Unconditionality-with parent coach, Scott Noelle