Don’t get me wrong: I am a big fan of those times when you don’t quite make it to the bedroom. When you’re pushed against a wall, knickers to one side and there’s that first, blissful thrust before an urgent, frenzied desire takes over and, in a matter of minutes, someone (let’s not kid ourselves: usually him) comes and, even if you don’t, the sound and feel of his climax has its own sweet satisfaction. But I don’t want to talk about the thrill of urgency today, I want to take a look foreplay - not just the physical preamble, but everything you can use to build tension, to draw out the experience, to get you both in the mood and to the point where the slightest touch is like a match to tinder (no dating app pun intended).
For many women, foreplay can mean the difference between orgasm or not. I like my sex to come with an orgasm – preferably more than one - so I’m a big fan of foreplay, and hope that my suggestions will give you some titillation and some real, tangible techniques to try at home.
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